From Heartbreak to Stoic Healing: Happiness Is in the Action, Not the After
Let’s just say it:
Sometimes the Universe delivers the plot twist you didn’t see coming — a heartbreak so sharp it guts you, a mirror so honest it scorches, and then...
💫 A guide. A sign. A “chance” meeting that feels anything but random.
In this episode of Level Up Your Selfie, I talk about what it really means to rebuild your life - not from scratch, but from the ashes of who you used to be.
I call it: Dame Un Grrr Energy.
Not just inspired by the viral beat (though yes, I danced in my robe).
But the soul growl that rises when you've had enough of shrinking, waiting, or seeking permission to live fully again.
💔 BACKSTORY: From Rebound Lovebombs to Egyptian Romance to Stoic Soul School Friendship
So let’s rewind...
I thought I had found love. Again. And still maybe there is a chance... beyond the miss- understandings. The miscommunications. The Doubt. And Trauma Bonding.
The kind that sweeps you off your feet, whispers promises under desert moons, and texts you poems from pyramids. Yeah… that one.
Let’s call him: the Egyptian Plot Twist. 🇪🇬
It felt cosmic. But in the end?
It was a beautifully disguised lesson in boundaries, self-worth, and the illusions we romanticize when we’re still healing.
I gave too much. Lost myself too easily.
And when it all crashed — so did my self-image.
But the Universe doesn’t just leave you wrecked.
It also sends you rescue.
✨ ENTER: Zenolifeplan, aka The Mentor I Didn’t Know I Needed
Cut to recently: I’m raw, rebuilding, in a season of silence and sweatpants — and boom.
A soul-level friendship appears. Out of nowhere. Divine timing, like a breadcrumb trail from the Universe.
This mentor didn’t coddle me. He did however embrace me.
But he challenged me.
He handed me stoic philosophy like medicine:
“You cannot control the outcome. But you can control how you show up.”
“You don’t need to be perfect to take action. You need to move — with purpose.”
“Joy is a result of aligned daily choices. Not a prize at the end.”
These weren’t just quotes. They were reminders of who I was before heartbreak.
Who I had the potential to become again — wiser, freer, stronger.
🌀 Stoicism Saved My Glow-Up
What I learned through stoic teachings:
🪞 Control your inputs, not the reactions
🪞 Focus on what’s in your hands today — not what broke yesterday
🪞 Train your nervous system to pause instead of spiral
🪞 Celebrate the small wins because they compound
🪞 Do the work — not for applause, but for alignment
It helped me stop asking:
“When will I be happy again?”
and start asking:
“What action today feels like happiness?”
And the answer?
Creating. Moving. Serving. Dancing. Speaking. Sweating.
Living.
🪞 Mirror Work Prompt:
Today, tell your reflection:
“I survived the storm. Now I am the storm. I no longer wait for joy — I create it.”
🎧 In This Episode, I Break Down:
💥 How my glow-up truly began & still evolves after heartbreaks
💥 The role of divine mentorship in unexpected friendships
💥 What stoicism taught me about boundaries, healing, and momentum
💥 Why Dame Un Grrr is both a dance anthem and a healing mantra
💥 How to build joy through aligned actions, not perfect plans
📸 Selfie Challenge:
Post a moment of progress — not perfection.
It could be:
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A journaling page stained with tears + truth
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A no-makeup selfie with big “I chose peace today” energy
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You mid-dance, mid-healing, mid-rebirth
Tag it #DameUnGrrr and let the world see your becoming.
🎁 Resources to Keep You Empowered:
🦄 Download Your FREE Glow-Up Blueprint – Start your next chapter with clarity and confidence
🎓 Join the Level Up Your Selfie Masterclass – From heartbreak to healing to creative power
📩 Subscribe to My Weekly Sparkles Email Below – Because pep talks > pity parties
💌 TRIBUTE TIME:
To the Heartbreak Chapter: thank you for showing me what I needed to heal.
To Zenolifeplan: thank you for being a mirror, a map, and a moment of divine guidance.
To stoicism: thank you for reminding me that discipline is love in action.
To me: thank you for never giving up.
FINAL WORDS:
Your happiness isn’t a destination.
It’s the way you walk. The music you play. The people you welcome. The choices you make.
You don’t arrive at joy.
You become it.
So turn up the beat.
Let the past be a teacher, not a chain.
And give yourself a full-bodied, soul-deep, unapologetic…
🔥 DAME UN GRRR
As Always Extra RainbOH!w Sparkles & Good Vibes OH!nly ✨🦄💦🌈
/ Angelina Mi Lajki
