It’s spooky season, and everywhere you look there are ghosts, goblins, witches, and of course… vampires. But here’s the truth: the scariest vampires aren’t in horror movies. They don’t wear capes or flash their fangs. Some of them sit across from you at dinner. Some of them text you “good morning” every day. Some of them say they love you.
They’re called energy vampires.
And they don’t want your blood — they want your light.
What the Hell Is an Energy Vampire Anyway?
An energy vampire is someone who leaves you drained after every interaction. Maybe they trauma dump. Maybe they guilt-trip. Maybe they make themselves the victim in every story. Whatever the tactic, the result is the same: you walk away feeling like your soul just ran a marathon it never signed up for.
The signs?
⚡ They mostly talk about themselves
⚡ They rarely ask about you
⚡ They use guilt to get what they want
⚡ They one-up every situation
⚡ They leave you doubting yourself
And the creepiest part? They don’t always know they’re doing it. Some are manipulators. Some are just trapped in unresolved trauma. Either way, the effect is the same — your energy? Gone.
My Recent Encounter (The Egyptian Guy Saga Continues…)
This isn’t theory for me. I’ve lived it. Over and over.
After my divorce, after betrayal and bankruptcy, my sense of judgment was cracked. I had spent years making my ex-husband the sun in my universe — letting him shine while I poured in my creativity, my brand, my name, my everything. And when that ended, I didn’t know how to trust myself again.
So what happened?
I attracted more vampires.
✨ The Morocco guy who love-bombed me, then resented my glow-up. He flipped the script until I was the jealous, crazy one while he crossed boundaries, added girls on Instagram, blocked me, ghosted me, and left me questioning my sanity.
✨ And then the Egyptian guy. “I’m single but it’s complicated. I’m divorcing. It’s expensive.” He demanded loyalty from me while living by his own rules. He got his wife pregnant two months after we started talking — didn’t tell me until the baby was about to be born. Gaslit me into believing she was “crazy” and “making it up.” And when she showed up in Egypt with the baby? He’s still proposing marriage to me in a mosque, still possessive, still jealous, still draining the life out of me.
I ended up in bed for two days straight last week — not sick, not lazy, but depleted. My body was screaming: this is a cycle. This is vampirism. And it has to stop.
Why Empaths Attract Vampires
Here’s the raw truth: energy vampires don’t chase just anyone. They chase light.
And empaths? We’re walking lanterns.
We radiate warmth, authenticity, care. We hold space. We give until there’s nothing left. And while that’s beautiful, it also makes us magnets for people who don’t know how to charge their own batteries.
That’s been my pattern: men who are dazzled by my glow at first… and then slowly try to dim it. My ex-husband. Morocco guy. Egyptian guy. All different faces, same story.
Because vampires don’t want to stand in the sun with you. They want to own it.
And when you let them, you start shrinking yourself to make them comfortable. You tell yourself, “Maybe I’m too much. Maybe I’m the problem.” But here’s the truth:
You’re not too much. They’re too empty.
How to Break the Cycle & Protect Your Spark
So what do we do? How do we stop giving our energy away like it’s disposable?
Here’s my blueprint — the one I’m reclaiming right now:
✨ Become your own bouncer. Your life is a nightclub. Not everyone gets in. Protect the VIP section — your spark — at all costs.
✨ Run the energy audit. After every interaction, check: Do I feel lighter or heavier? Inspired or drained? Your body never lies.
✨ Boundaries are doors, not walls. You decide who gets access and under what conditions. If they can’t respect the rules, they don’t get in.
✨ Stop playing savior. You can’t heal someone who’s committed to being the victim. That’s not love — that’s martyrdom.
✨ Reclaim your blueprint. For me, that means getting back to my creative business, my cardio, my spark. That’s where I thrive. That’s where I glow.
✨ Say no without guilt. Every “no” to them is a “yes” to you.
✨ Take space unapologetically. Sometimes you need to ghost the vampire before they ghost you. Protect your peace.
Because protecting your energy isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.
Mirror Work: Could You Be the Vampire?
And here’s the twist: sometimes the vampire is… us.
When we’re depleted, overworked, running on fumes, we lean too hard on others. We vent without listening. We trauma-dump. We expect others to carry our weight. Not because we’re bad people — but because we’re empty.
The difference between being an empath on empty and being a full-blown vampire is self-awareness. If you catch yourself slipping, don’t spiral into shame. Ask: What do I need that I’m outsourcing to others? Then give that to yourself first.
You can’t shame yourself into glowing again. You can only love yourself back into alignment.
The Mic Drop
My ex-husband, Morocco guy, Egyptian guy — all different faces of the same vampire cycle. Drawn to my light, trying to own it, leaving me depleted.
But here’s what I know now:
My spark is not up for negotiation.
My life is a velvet-rope nightclub.
And I am the damn bouncer.
From now on, only those who celebrate my glow, respect my boundaries, and give as much as they take get access to me.
To the rest? The guest list is closed.
✨ If this resonated, share this post with someone who needs the reminder. And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram @angelina.milajki for more rainbow sparkles and real talk.
As Always Extra RainbOH!w Sparkles & Good Vibes OH!nly ✨🦄💦🌈
/ Angelina Mi Lajki
