WEARING SCRUBS DOESN’T AUTOMATICALLY MAKE YOU A CARING F*CKING PERSON. 💀❤️
There. I said it.
Another double shift in elderly care.
Another reminder that getting the job DONE isn’t the same as giving a shit about the person you’re doing it TO.
Because caregiving is a SKILL.
Not just changing diapers.
Serving meals.
Getting through a checklist before the next alarm rings.
It’s reading a room.
A face.
A tiny movement.
Knowing when to speak.
When to shut the fuck up.
When to SLOW DOWN.
And when YOUR energy is making everything worse.
In Sweden we call it lågaffektivt bemötande.
A low-arousal approach to care. The principle is universal.
Sounds lovely on paper.
But it doesn’t mean screaming CALM DOWN while your own voice is loud enough to wake the fucking dead. 💀
It means YOU become the calm.
Lower your voice.
Soften your gaze.
Relax your body.
Give them space.
Because YOUR frustration doesn’t magically become THEIR understanding.
Recently I witnessed care being rushed.
Food offered without really seeing the person receiving it.
An anxious moment met with a raised voice instead of reassurance.
I stepped in. Calmly.
Not to humiliate anyone.
But because someone vulnerable deserved better.
And here’s what I’m learning.
Sometimes helping means letting someone do it themselves, even when it takes FOREVER.
Sometimes it means not correcting a story.
Sometimes resistance isn’t a personal insult.
And sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is simply BE STILL.
I’m not a perfect caregiver.
FUCK NO. 😂
I’m learning every shift.
But I refuse to confuse completing tasks with providing good care.
Because these people have lived entire fucking lives.
Parents. Lovers. Workers. Rebels.
Someone’s whole world.
They’re not a checklist with a pulse.
YOU CAN FINISH EVERY TASK AND STILL FAIL THE PERSON.
And THAT’S why caregiving isn’t for everyone.
Not because you need to be born an angel.
But because you must be willing to learn, listen, adapt and PUT YOUR EGO ASIDE.
THE JOB ISN’T JUST TO GET THINGS DONE. IT’S TO MAKE SOMEONE FEEL SAFE WHILE YOU DO THEM. ❤️
Extra RainbOH!w Sparkles ✨🦄🌈
Good Vibes OH!nly. 💖
#elderlycare #dementiacare #vårdbiträde #healthcareassistant #personcentredcare
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